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Personal Motivation & Professional Relevance, Part 2

April 4, 2015

SDS presentation-creationDeveloping Your Internal Coach

You’ve coached others to success through careful instruction, correction and positive affirmation.  Now it’s time for you to turn that approach inward.  You’ve helped others see themselves in new and favorable light.  Now it’s time for you to become your own coach and do likewise – for you!  Some key levels of self coaching are:

  • Results
  • Behaviors
  • Attitudes
  • Self Coaching


Right now there are areas in your life where you are pleased with the results – and areas in which you are not.  Those results could include achieving goals in the workplace, having a better home life or making friends with others.


In the same way an athlete’s performance on the field determines his or her results on a consistent basis, so does your behavior dictate the results you achieve.  You’ve heard the saying, “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always gotten.”   The way to change the outcome is to change the behavior, and the way to change the behavior is to change your attitude about yourself or the activity.


How do you think or feel about a certain activity – about yourself carrying out that endeavor?  Do you disguise your lack of results in false humility by telling yourself any of the following?

  • There are more talented and able people than me in the workplace.
  • I’ve passed my peak and the new, young guns are taking over.
  • I don’t have the skill, talent or ability for this position.

Often these statements remain true only because you continue make them so.  If you change your attitude and the statements you are also likely to change your performance and the results you achieve.  For example, try one of these on for size:

  • I’m just as talented and able as the next person.
  • My best days are still ahead of me.
  • This position is a perfect fit for my skills, talents and abilities.

When you choose to change your attitude and reframe your statements you trigger new corresponding emotions of enthusiasm and evoke new mental pictures of achievement.  This combination of words, emotions and pictures puts you on the path to creating a new life story.  And, it puts you in the director’s seat for producing that story.

Coaching Your Self for Improved Results

There are three primary things to remember as you coach yourself for new results.

Begin with Specific Instructions

Give your self new information that is accurate or positive, rather than inaccurate or negative.   Here is a self coaching example using information from the series session on Recognizing & Relating to Four Behavioral Styles, based on how to better communicate with Dominant, Inspiring, Supportive and Cautious types. Begin with good information and then place that information into present tense statements your subconscious mind can receive such as:

  • I am an effective communicator, and I speak the language of DISC fluently.
  • With Dominant types I’m direct, bottom-line and too-the-point.
  • With Inspiring types I’m fun, upbeat and engaging.
  • With Supportive types I’m warm, friendly and considerate.
  • With Cautious types I’m factual, logical and less-emotional.
  • I am an effective communicator, and I speak the language of DISC fluently.

Make New Statements in the Present Tense

Your subconscious mind only recognizes the here and now.  That’s why when you say, “Someday I’ll be a better communicator,” or “I hope to become a better communicator,” your subconscious mind, if it could speak, would say, “Great, tell me when you’re ready to start.”

Continue Feeding Your Subconscious Mind to Create New Results

You don’t have to force any changes.  Just create a new set of statements and deliver them to yourself in a heartfelt manner in the present tense on a regular basis.  As you go through your day look for times to speak to yourself in positive ways.  It could be as you prepare for work in the morning, drive to the office, stroll during the lunch hour, hit the treadmill late in the day or pray or meditate in the evening before bed.

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Resources & Recommended Reading

  • Émile Coué – Self Mastery Through Conscious Autosuggestion (1922)
  • Shad Helmstetter – What to Say When You Talk to Yourself (1982)
  • Shakti Gawain – Creative Visualization (1978)
  • Bob Proctor – You Were Born Rich (1997)
One Comment
  1. Reblogged this on Rich Drinon Leadership Communication and commented:

    Turn your verbal skills inward…

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